By the time I was eight, my first brother had died and my second was diagnosed with the same fatal condition. My great-grandmother had died, but I wasn’t allowed at the funeral. Instead, I peeked through the heating ducts to watch what was going on. My dog was given away with little explanation and my second brother was placed in a children’s home where he could receive the medical attention he needed. I never saw him again. My loss experience was more extreme than many and remained a dominant theme throughout my childhood.
How can we help our children deal with deaths of loved ones? Here are some ways.
The loss of a home or possessions is often viewed as a materialistic loss, and we tend to minimize its significance and impact. What is often overlooked are the irreplaceable family heirloom-type items that are lost and the huge amount of time, effort, and money it will take to rebuild after a loss. A trunk full of baby clothes, a box of school memorabilia, photo albums and baby books are the kind of things no one or no amount of insurance can replace.
Facebook is a wonderful resource of encouragement and support. My friendship network is an incredible group of people. Periodically, I’m going to add those quotes that are especially helpful to me. I will add them at the beginning, so you don’t have to go through the ones you’ve already seen.
Seeking God’s perfect will: “God’s will is determined by His wisdom which always perceives, and His goodness which always embraces, the intrinsically good.” -C.S.Lewi’s from Marian McFadden